so that today is my 1 year anniversary on this site, I decided to share an experience I´ve had a few days ago that kept me thinking. This post will be exaggerated and make a few ones of you laugh for sure but I hope that it also shows the point on how about the recent economic rationalization definitely runs into the wrong direction. Maybe you think now economic rationalization?Ssounds like the opposite of funny, well, just read on. Maybe I am able to surprise you!
The experience: Some days ago my internet and landline was gone, so after a few tries of resetting the box I called my provider. A computer voice welcomed me with the words: “Hello, we´ve had a lot of changes here, so may I help you?” Within the following three minutes I got asked about the problem, my data and everything before I got told that my provider had a problem. Well, okay, so I had my answer, what´s wrong about it? Nothing at the first sight, it´s just the thing that the machine needed about 3 minutes what a human could´ve told me in 10 seconds. If you followed the German news within the past month a bit, you maybe know that a lot of providers let go 100´s of service employees due to rationalization. They got placed by machines and computers, which I think isn´t good for a economy as well as for personal interaction between customer and provider but here we go with funny part.
After this call I instantly had the thought what might be next? Think of the following situation:
Someone in your home is having a heart attack. By dialing 911 for proper help you´ll find yourself having a conversation like this:
<Computer voice> Hello, you called 911, how can I help you?
<You> My husband is having a heart attack, I need an ambulance. I´m living in XXXX, XXXX
<Computer voice> Thanks for your data. You said: Your husband is having a heart attack, is that correct? You can answer with yes or no or alternatively press 1 for yes and 2 for no on your phone.
<Computer voice> You answered “yes.” What are the symptoms?
<You> The heartbeat is irregular, the vital signs way to high, he´s sweating and his chest hurt. Also he can´t breathe proper, could I finally have a an ambulance?
<Computer voice> Sorry, I didn´t get the last part. Could you repeat that , please?
<You> I need an a.m.b.u.l.a.n.c.e – N.O.W.!
Computer voice> Sorry, our line to a doctor is still busy, I will put you through as soon as possible. Did the patient have a heart attack before?
<You> (helpless) Yes, two years ago
<Computer voice> What kind of attack was it? STEMI? or NSTEMI?
<Computer voice> I can´t categorize “What” to a specific group. Does he take any medication or does he have any implants?
<You> Yes, he´s taking Macumar.
<Computer voice>Thank you for the information.
<You> Can you PLEASE put me through to a doc right now or send a fucking ambulance? My husband is dying in front of me!!!
<Computer voice> Did you say: Your husband just died and you need a doctor to confirm? The line to our docs are still busy due to rationalization of the working processes. If your husband died, I can put you through to a funeral service by the postal code you gave at the beginning of our call…
Okay, as you can see, this conversation is exaggerated but the call today left a pretty bad taste in my mouth on how things develop. Just remember the greeting line at a lot of docs offices. Nowadays you can even order your prescription about it or just think about the supermarket with the self check out. I see the point that companies have to save money and be as modern as possible but there should a border. When it comes to the feeling that it´s just an impersonal place anymore, what kind of costumer feels comfortable with that?
Well, just a few thoughts of the day…
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-My new single will be defo out end of January-
Announcements like this are nothing spectacular in the music business. A thing we hear on a regular base by various artists. So what´s the reason that I am blogging about something so average? The simple answer is: Because this announcement was made right after the statement „I am cancer free“, and „I had double mastectomy.“
If you followed the media a bit you already figured out that I am talking about singer Anastacia, who just beat breast cancer for the second time in 10 years. So actually this blog isn´t about an upcoming single or album, it´s about the importance of (breast cancer) awareness and how one person can be become a light of hope for 100.000´s of women fighting the same battle right in this moment.
„October is breast cancer awareness month“
Seeing the first interview after her second cancer journey that begun in February this year, you can see how the singer takes a deep breath more than once before answering to the questions about her treatment. Surely it´s not an easy topic for any woman talking about losing both breasts. Nevertheless she comes out (as people know her by nature) with a positive summarizing. Her message is: You maybe lost your breast(s) but you are alive! It´s obvious to see that she recovered well from her treatment and wants to give courage to women that still have to decide which way to choose and those who already did she´s now supporting the charity „bin your bra“.
“Early detection has saved my life twice. I will continue to battle and lend my voice in any way I can.”
This is the one original and most important statement she´s letting the world know. Since her first cancer treatment in 2003, (loosing 40 percent of her breasts already), she created the bcrf (breast cancer research foundation), which helps women in need about donations to pay mammograms and do research work how to prevent. Both times cancer was found while having a routine diagnostic mammogram. Needless to say that she wants to raise her voice for regular awareness to save lives.
About the treatment herself she tells “I´m feeling much better, it has been unbelievable. The ride has been way more intense than I thought but I am so glad to be here. Any journey down that road isn’t easy for any female, but you got to do what you got to do, and I am cancer free for it forever. Breast cancer free at least, so it is all worth the struggle.”
So let´s hope that this honest but also positive message will reach a lot of women out there and help to raise awareness, what is still the best treatment against this illness. Also we hope that it was the last hard struggle for the tough and encouraged singer.
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I know that I didn´t publish anything new in while but lately I´ve been thinking about some stuff again. As the title already reveals, it´s about a personal respect zone everybody has, that should be –respected-. I think we all agree on that but why is it that this zone doesn´t work in some situations? I´m not talking about that you maybe take a step too close to a co-worker while having a fun time or giving someone you like (and you don´t know if he/she likes you back) a maybe too early hug. I´m speaking about strangers to you – you perhaps have the feeling you know at least until a certain degree – through the media!
It´s not that I know what I will write here only from TV, I´ve also seen those situations myself and were pretty shocked at times. Let me tell you about a concert of a female singer (I won´t mention names here) where an adult guy (about 45) started yelling “I love you, I just want to hug you”, etc. up on stage. The singer reacted cool, went up to him, got down on her knees and said “so give me a hug”, what was really cute in my eyes. Well, he did, that strong and that long (still yelling some stuff at her) that she spread her arms to keep in balance on her knees and just wait it out. A few other fans were literally shocked. Thankfully she´s professional enough to manage it with a laugh and a joke.
Another situation was about a male singer surrounded by a bunch of kids and teenagers that barely let him walk a step, partly pulling on his shirt and stuff. Even the security didn´t do anything about it, no matter that it was more than obvious that he didn´t seem happy.
A third situation (yes, I´m going to concerts a lot) was a girl around 20 I remember that wanted a photo with the lead singer of my favorite band but didn´t speak English. I just heard in German “what is –I want a photo-?” and so told her. Well, in the end she went up to him, not even saying hi, just placing herself beside him saying “photo”, no thanks right after, nothing; she just went away.
According to those 3 situations, vicarious for a lot of others for sure, I ask myself what happens to some people´s behavior when they meet celebs and why? Why seem the border of respect you normally have for persons around you in life not to work for the once we know from the media?
I think the answer is to find in a psychological trait. All those open media sources connote us that we have a view in a part of what they do and who they are. No matter if it is an article in some magazine, a show on TV or some portals on the internet, we mostly get a lot of news about their lives including relationship, split ups, family or health issues. It kinda makes us feel that we –know- them at least for a bit (regardless if all the reports are true).
Some of them also keep in touch with their fans over social networks but let´s keep it real, if someone with 100.000 + followers answers you at a time it doesn´t mean they know who you are.
In my opinion exactly there´s the problem. When you finally meet them in person, you remember all the stuff you know about them, you maybe remember a virtual interaction and the positive feelings they gave you through what they do. Now you want to tell them, so you maybe grab their arm, scream something or whatever to get their attention. But remember, if you weren´t that lucky to have some real longer meetings before so they recognize you; you´re a stranger to them! You maybe say now that they´re used to it and it´s their job. But it´s not. Their job is to entertain the audience, no matter if actor, singer or author. It does not mean that they give away all their rights of a personal life, what should always be respected as well as themselves as a person.
So ask yourself: How you would feel if some stranger to you “touches you all over” to exaggerate a bit or screams right into your face. Ask yourself how you would feel if they break into your comfort zone in a ruthless way. Ask yourself if you´d keep that person in mind in a good way or at all because others will do the same. And lastly ask yourself: Wouldn´t it be nicer to have a normal little normal talk with them instead? I think this would stay in their mind far more positive, don´t you think?
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“Love is most powerful emotion and the strongest feeling a human being can feel.“
In fact, this sentence which already a lot of philosophers wrote poems about or a lot of musicians sing wonderful songs with deep going lyrics about, is also proven by a lot of actions in reality, in a positive as well as in a negative manner. Sadly the media seems to tell more and more often the stories of jealous men for example that killed their girlfriends because she fell out of love. On the other hand love is able to cross any bridges and distances, thinking of the couples that found there partner in a totally different kind of the world including a different culture and maybe also religion. Nevertheless a lot of these couples find a solution to combine their very different kind of lifestyles because the love for each other is stronger than any space; spoken physically and emotionally.
But what is love? What is this big emotion that seems to get best as well as the worst out of people? Is it this huge unknown of the universe? Or is it, like the neuroscience tells a simple hormone reaction? I´m not sure about it myself and so writing this is also for a trip on a road that I don´t know where it will lead me.
An inevitable matter of fact is that we choose our partners subconscious by anthropologic parameters. It is indisputable that if we meet someone for the first time our immune system checks out by getting subconscious the pheromones of our opposite, if (s)he´d might be the right one to have children with. It´s an evolutionary process we can´t control. If this matches (and some other parameters) our brain starts to produce more happy hormones like Dopamin, testosterone (for men), Oxytocin (mostly women) but also the stress hormone Cortisol – that just by the way – to increase the feeling to be in love or commonly described as the typical “butterflies”.
So if love is measurable by parameters, is it in the end as logical as 2 + 2 = 4?
According to what we learned above your answer is may yes now but on the other hand there are some irrational tests that prove how partners can be “connected” with each other, even about distances, which just isn´t explainable with hormones. Remember the often heard story about women that felt that there partner or another beloved family member was having an accident somewhere. They instinctively felt that something was wrong or even woke up at night knowing that something happened. Another interesting test that took place at a university in Australia consisted couples that where placed with a test at different corners of a room without any eye or body contact. Anyway there heartbeats and breath frequency resembled to each other (mostly the women resembled to the men). It seemed like there were feeling their partners which can´t be explained with any common “love hormone” yet.
Also remember that love can grow during the time. What may have begun as a flirt some years back can become a serious relationship or even marriage through the years. When the first “blind sight” is gone, couples mostly describe their relationship as even more conversant.
“Love can´t exist without trust, respect, interest in each other and communication”
This is a fact that psychologists as well as the majority of us agree on and is also officially known as the four basic pillars.
So what is love in the end? Is it the anthropologic process that wins the race? Or is it the psychological aspect because we´ve already learned from life that there´s no harvest without care and work. Or maybe all those theories are wrong and it´s just that great feeling that can be hardly described in words because beside all the science there´s still some magic in this world.
I can´t give you the final conclusion. Personally I think it´s a healthy mix of all of those elements because look around you. Life isn´t just black in white in general, it´s the mixing colors we enjoy. Why should it be any different with one of the most beautiful things on earth?
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Do you remember your childhood when your parents were your biggest role models? Your Dad maybe was like Superman, caring about the family, taking all those complicated decisions, while your Mom was Wonderwoman, that eased all your pain and sorrows. If you had a good childhood, you didn´t have a doubt in your parents, no matter which decision they took, you somehow knew that it was always right for you.
As you grow older, this picture probably started to change. You developed your own opinion on things that not always agreed with your parents. Also you made own experiences and learned to understand that daily business isn´t that easy for Mom and Dad as well as it seemed sometime earlier. The image of the superheroes cracked and evolutionally it´s a normal, good and necessary thing. It means that children start to build an own character, are able to take own choices – no matter if they´re wrong or right.
By that time a lot of us start to find new role models and idols. It maybe is the older brother / sister or even a celebrity. Either way it´s someone who is strong and going his or her own way in our eyes. The funny thing about it is that we want to be like them as we wanted to be like our parents in our childhood. Remember all those “family” games you played with your friends, where you were the Mom or Dad. I guess nearly every one of us did. Later you preferred more to be like your older sibling or the already mentioned star. You maybe dreamed about being gifted with a singing or acting talent, being successful and independent or just about having a driving license and to be allowed to come and go whenever you want.
As we reach the adulthood ourselves a lot of people mostly loose those thoughts about idols and role models, because we somehow made it to go our own way but subconsciously there´s still someone like that for sure. Maybe it´s your parents again that still live in a happy marriage or have a save retirement after long years of work. Maybe it´s your Mom that raised you well all alone. Maybe it´s a friend that got up onto her feet again after a bad divorce or a neighbour that found a good job after years of searching. Maybe it´s also a celeb again that won the battle against a disease you also are / were affected with and encourages people not to give up now. Whoever it is, I think it´s important to have those role models and idols at any point of your life. They can encourage us to get to new levels where the road all alone would be a hard one. They can motivate us to try something new and experience things we wouldn´t dare without a little push. Maybe they can also give us the strength to take action when it´s necessary.
So, no matter how old you are or who your idol is, be thankful for them because they can give you the strength to go on in difficult situations and develop yourself where you might thought that you´re stuck at a certain point.
When love picked you up, carried you through the storm
It´s in that very moment when a hero is born
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Yes, I´m I turned 30 yesterday and speak it out loud! I´m not turning 29 for a second or a third time, even if I liked that number. Anyway, I´m an honest person, so let me share my point of view with all the positive and negative aspects with you.
But what is the positive site about reaching this new decade, which will bring the first wrinkles and greys? The simple answer to this is: Reaching it! I remember back in my childhood when every birthday was exciting to grow a year older and so it was for my friends. We asked each other when our birthday was and were proud when one of us were the older one. Nowadays it would be pretty crazy to think like that but when did it change? For some people it´s the magic 18 (where you officially reach the status of an adult in Germany). For some it´s even earlier, like with 16, for some later, like with 20. Beyond that age you hardly find someone that want to grow older. In this world that tells us that only youth and beauty is perfection it can be hard to see the other site, that every year is a gift and a personal development.
For some people it would be the only wish to grow older but they don´t have the chance.
If I start to feel split about my fading youth, I remember myself to all those that would love to have that kind of “problem”. The ones that struggle to hopefully have another birthday. Maybe it is a bit easier for me to remind myself due to own bad health issues some years ago. It was a the time when I started to perceive the thought about it like that, so becoming 30 is definitely is a huge gift to me, that I´m very thankful for.
We often take gifts in life for granted until they´re gone.
But there are also other positive aspects about it. Let me name just a few:
I don´t feel the pressure to look perfect all the time anymore, like I did with 16. I don´t care no more if I´m rated by people or what they may think about me if I´m not fully styled in a tram or somewhere else, what it´s, to keep it honest, mostly all about as a Teenager.
I kind of found myself and know better what I want, in the job world for example. I know where I want to go and what I´m worth. I did my orientation and decisions, which is also often kinda pressuring for young people.
I´m not that suggestible by others no more and learned to listen to my own inner voice. Also I figured out that I´m no less worth by being single, which is also a big topic while Teenager years.
So yes, I´m turned 30 and I´m fine with it – along with all pro´s and contra´s! For me it´s all about being grateful for what you have and I´m grateful to reach this new decade and so I´m excited what it might bring. Also actor Jesse Spencer once gave a statement about it that the 30´s are his best decade so far. So let´s hope that it will be the same for me and all of you going into this direction.
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„Help me“ – Two simple words that are able to give us a lot of different emotions at a time.
–Help me- because I´m scared
–Help me- because a situation is so tough that I can´t face it alone
–Help me- because I trust you enough to let you into my world and share my weakness you
–Help me- because I´m strong enough to tell that I´m afraid and I can´t make it alone
This is at least the list of feelings I got when I read these two words yesterday night. To be honest, there was a third word –laugh-, -help me laugh- but in the end it came all down to these two words.
Those words were written by a woman that got diagnosed breast cancer for a second time and more intense this way around. A woman that I only know as strong and a fighter by nature. To hear these words of such a person is touching and scaring at the same time.
Humans seem to be generated to ask the less for help than any possible. Normally we don´t want to bother anyone with our problems or we´re afraid that they think we´re weak or aren´t able to manage things that others do on their own. Sometimes we´re even ashamed to ask for help. Honestly I´m the kind of person that even feels bad to ask my neighbor to get me some items at the grocery store when I caught the flu.
So what kind of feelings do persons need to have if they swallow all their pride (or does it even disappear in these extreme situations?) to ask for help in much more ways than this little sentence tells at the first look. Is it the list I mentioned above? Or a part of it? Honestly I don´t know. I can only guess but what I can say for sure is that there is a lot of strength to ask for help, no matter in which situation you are. Also I know that the ones that hear those words can be honored to have the deep trust of someone else, to be part of their world, not only at times of sunshine.
I instantly hope with all my heart that this strength will guide this special person another time to the road of recovery and health. If one thing is for sure, it´s that no matter what, she won´t face it alone!
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