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Some of you might call me crazy for a thought I currently have. Lately I talked with a friend about Albert Einstein and his theory of relativity. Einstein says that there are multiple alternate universes and worlds, each different from one another and so a version of ourselves that exists in each one. Actually I would love to go on a travel like this, to see different versions of this world and in the end of me. I would love to get to know myself in alternative ways, getting to know the differences and similarities and maybe get to know myself even better through that experience. I think if it would be possible, it would bring people closer to themselves again because in this hectic time we live we sadly often loose more and more track on ourselves. Also it might could help the whole world. Imagine you would see an earth that’s totally destroyed by war or an earth that’s peace- and mindful. In which would you prefer to live? If those time travels were possible, we might would be shocked about some versions of us and this versions earth, some would maybe make us sad, happy or thoughtful but in the end it would make us grateful for what we have or what´s might to come.

Is it only me who loves this thought?

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„You´re weird“, „You´re not normal“, „You´re not like other girls”. I´ve heard those things a lot of times. It´s not that I wear a conspicuous hair color / cut or clothes. Neither do I have any tattoos or piercings. On the outside I look as average as the people who told me. What they meant is my way to look at things and situations. My favorite singer has a line in one of her songs that says “I see the same like you but differently.” I feel home in this line because I it describes it perfectly. Most people don´t understand and it´s sadly in a humans nature that they rate things they don´t understand abnormal. Without sounding too philosophical – but what exactly is the meaning of being normal? And were does abnormal begin? I think each person is an own individual and allowed to have own dreams, own visions and ideas of their life.

In my case I got rated not normal for that I don´t feel the need to build a family at 34. That I don´t dream about (exaggerated: cooking dinner for Mr. Right), that I don´t dream about settling at all, to name just a few. I am totally happy for everyone who lives this vision with passion but it´s not my way. I love to travel, home for me can be any place I feel calm and happy in that very moment. It can be the sea, an apartment while I travel or even a person. I love to learn languages, love to explore new things. It seems fine for most people until you´re 25 but older? That´s when you have to settle for family. This old cliché is still in the heads of too many people. (Welcome back to when house work is for women and cars only for men).

I am happy with the way I live my life and shouldn´t it all about that in the end? All of us only live once, so why should one live a stereotype just to please others and feel sad or like something is missing the whole time? Where would be the sense in it? Wouldn´t it be much worse if you live a stereotype life only halfhearted for all the people around you? Think about your partner or maybe even kids. Personally I think it wouldn´t be fair to anyone of them.

Also I think that everything in life has a purpose and so there´s a reason why you are the way you are. You may not see it now but someday – like you learn to appreciate the good through bad things even more.

Honestly, when people told me to be weird, not normal, etc. for the first times, it hurt, even though I didn´t show. In between I smile from the heart for being a Freak of Nature. Other people don´t need to understand my journey, they just need to accept. The same goes for everyone out there who is different in their appearance, not matter if on the outside or inside. See yourself as a butterfly in a world full of caterpillars because that is what you are.  Don´t let anyone ever diminish you light or make you feel bad about yourself. It says a lot of them and their narrow way of thinking, in a world that definitely needs to be more open minded.

Love and respect to you all!

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To travel is to live

I love to travel! It is not only about visiting new places – well, also about that of course but it means so much more to me. When I travel, I feel free. I feel a freedom and peace within myself that I often thought to have already lost. Don´t get me wrong. I am mostly okay with my daily life, finally. There was a long time when I wasn´t but since I changed perspective on some things, started to overcome fears and learnt to say no at times, I feel more content more often or sometimes even happier. I´m still working on this feeling to grow but it is a step by step process and traveling helps me to simply clear my mind.

Nevertheless, it is not the same kind of content and happiness compared to travelling. I love the freedom, getting to know new places, new people, new life styles. When I travel, I barely stay at hotels. Instead I choose to live at the houses or flats of people who offer a room, so I can see a real part of how they live instead of just the touristic side. I love to talk to them about anything and everything when they offer to chat, like work days over there, job situations, economics, free time activities, places that are hidden treasures for a must see beside the touristic spots which are of course on the list as well. I love to learn about the culture. In a way their lives are so different but similar at the same time. I think both sides gain a lot of knowledge which also prevents from prejudice and helps to be open minded for the unknown.

Also I love the feeling to leave daily business far behind for a few days. Every now and then everyone needs to recharge batteries but as long as you´re home, there´s housework, groceries, cooking and other errands to do. Being freed of that, if only for a little while, also gives so much of freedom. The days seem unbelievably long because there´s just no pressure in time and you can do whatever you want – whenever you want.

Last but not least I love to see all the various places, the sea, a unique castle, or little rebuild New York in Rotterdam in the Netherlands for example.

Someday I hope that I can also host a guest pupil from somewhere in the world. I can´t go to all the places I´d like to go (as long as I don´t win in lottery ;)), so it would be a nice way to get a part of the world into your home that you might can´t afford to visit yourself. I know that there are some people that don´t understand my desire for traveling but that´s okay. My way is for me, not for them.

If you love to travel I can only advice you to do it. Collected experiences and memories are so much more worth than items. In the end you only regret the chances you don´t take, I can tell out of own experience. Do the trip you´d love to do if it´s what you really want, so you can talk about it when you´re 70. Isn´t that nice thought?

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Lately  I often read that people want 2016 to end because of the shit it brought by losing a lot of famous people. Yes, it is sad but I think it is a waste to wish away a year that also brought good. Let’s face it, each year has its ups and downs. The year hasn’t been all good to me as well but there were also some amazing moments I wouldn’t want to miss. I guess it’s the same for everyone. You may had struggles as well but there also might have been a lovely trip, a reward at work, a new family member you got to know, etc. Don’t let the good things be overshadowed by the bad. Each year will have its good and bad times. Cherish the good, it’s a way better feeling than cursing the bad.

Also I think that those sad happenings make us realise even more how fast our lives or the life our loved ones can be gone. I don´t mean it in a depressing way. Instead I think it´s a reminder we (sadly) need sometimes, when we rush through the days again in daily business. Sometimes we should take a moment and realise i.e. the beauty of nature around us or skip to clean the car and meet up with a friend or family for a coffee instead. Those moments are worth it so much I for myself with try to remind me more often. Maybe it would be a good new year resolution? 🙂

I hope you all have a good start into 2017. Remember, that it is not a fail if you can´t keep anything you´ve planned for the year. Don´t pressure yourself with that. As long as you made happen a part of it and try to keep going, you´ve already achieved a lot more than people who aren´t trying at all.

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“I am the sum of my fears” – A sentence that described myself pretty much since… the day I don´t wanted my fears to rule my life anymore, since the day that the pressure my fears put on me became bigger than the problem itself. A few years back I was suffering from panic attacks about each new or unpleasant situation. I came down with the whole package, a heavy pounding heart, a way to high pulse, sickness, sweating, shivering and the feeling to faint right away. Somehow I always managed to get through without fainting and so my self-esteem grew little by little that I can do it, that I can control it if my will is strong enough. I was sick of avoiding situations or knowing that it would cause another attack. I just wanted to do the things everyone did and rate them normal or with good things, like traveling for example, even enjoy it!

That´s when a new chapter began. Once again my endless thanks goes out to a special person in so many ways. I started traveling because of this person and after the first panic attacks before entering or in trains – guess what? I loved it! First, it still was harder for me than for others but the first step was done. With each time I did, the fear backed off because of the positive experiences. In the end it motivated me to start the same procedure with other things. In the beginning it wasn´t any easier but also here the positive experiences triggered a positive effect and the desire for a more normal life. Don´t get me wrong, there´s still some things that scare me, things that are ”normal” or maybe just a bit unpleasant to others but they don´t give me full panic attacks anymore. In between I even get myself into those situations absolutely conscious about 3-4 times a year because I found out that once you do what you fear, fear usually disappears. I don´t expect to be free of any fears in the future but of most of them. The list is getting shorter and shorter. 🙂 This years I successfully did two self set challenges already, currently doing my third and two more to come!

Know that everyone of you who suffers from anxiety and panic attacks can do it. Remember that your brain evaluate things more dangerous than they really are! The worst case is only happening in your head 99,9 % of the time. So how big chances are that it´s are going to happen for real? Overthinking is the worst thing you can do. I´ve once read a sentence which nails it pretty perfect: “Overthinking is the art of creating problems that weren´t even there.” In the end things mostly turn out different than you thought about it anyway. Also remember that even unpleasant times pass. In the end they can make you stronger if you let them. The fight may ain´t easy but it´s worth it! As long as your desire for a normal life is unbroken you have the power (to learn) to control it. Your will can and certainly will take you there if you challenge yourself to leave your comfort zone step by step. Each positive experience will propel you into the right direction.

Never give in to your fears because everything you desire is on the other side!

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“Remind Me Of You”

Today is a day with a special mark for me. 5 years ago my Dad passed away by cancer. Don´t worry, this won´t be a too sad blog entry (I hope) but more reflection of a memory that´s still so alive.

Some people say that the memory of loved ones fade in time. Thankfully I can say that it didn´t happen to me yet and I hope that won´t happen too soon or even better, that it won´t ever happen. I still remember the small and little things. I still can hear his voice, can remember conversations, yes also arguments we had because that´s normal. Let´s say I remember all the daily situations as if it wouldn´t be any longer than a few month, so how can it be 5 years? Honestly, if he would show up in the door right now or tomorrow, acting all normal, it would feel that the past years would have been a long, weird dream but not reality. Do you know what? I wouldn´t want it any other way! I somehow can “feel” that he´s doing okay on the other side and in peace. It calms me a lot. I feel blessed that my memory and so this part of him is somehow alive. What I still don´t get is the years that passed already, it seems unreal.

About a week ago one of my favorite artists, Conrad Sewell, released a music video for a song that´s called “Remind Me”, which is exactly about this topic. A young boy, who´s father died (what´s revealed in the end of the video) got guided by his father in his mind in every single step he did. It´s what kept him going while his world broke apart. It literally let me burst into tears right away when I watched it but I think it´s a sign. The storyline idea Conrad had himself and it means more to me than he will probably ever know.

In the end memories of lost ones don´t always hurt, sometimes they make you smile and grateful and keep you going. I am happy to feel those memories so alive even though I question myself how it can be five years already?

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Hey everyone,

2015 is slowly coming to an end (where has the year gone?). In January I promised you to take you onto a little journey throughout the year and give you some updates. My new year resolution was “to work on – and live dreams”. As you may have seen in my little updates I did both of it! Beside some minor setbacks it was one of the best years I remember! It´s crazy how goals can motivate you to go for things or even take you to unexpected chances.

I have to confess that I didn´t made everything of my list happen but hey, there´s a new year! 😉 It worked so well that I decided to give the resolution an encore with the things that are left over and some new goals. J All in all, realizing stuff step by step and get some unexpected addition made me a definitely more positive person again that just wants to start over.

Here are a few examples of my highlights:

  • I really made it to go to London, finally! It was a huge wish on my bucket list + I went there by Eurostar, a thing I really wanted to try even though it also scared me at the same time. In the end it was nothing to scare for at all and I had a wonderful time in this beautiful city!
  • I had this really unexpected experience with my local radio station. You have to know that I was always interested in the “behind the scenes” stuff of a radio station and the job there but I never thought to have the chance to ask an insider about it. This year I had, out of the blue and the lovely reporter told much more right away than I´ve ever asked. It was absolutely interesting and I had a fabulous day!
  • I´ve been to quiet a lot concerts of my favorite artist and had the chance to meet her back. This never gets old and each time so special to me! If you read my previous posts you may remember a part of why she is so important to me.
  • I´ve seen a person back I haven´t seen for years, which was just an amazing feeling!
  • The “secret project” I started with a year ago turns out better and better, which really makes me happy!

Those are my absolute highlights but okay, I want to be fair, of course there have been also bad moments. I had to decline a wonderful job opportunity just because the daily ride would have been way too long. When I sent my application I thought they would be looking for a department closer to me but everything happens for a reason, even if we can´t see it right away, doesn´t it? Also I´ve messed up a situation with a guy by my own stupidity (and fear – if the signs haven´t been all in my mind anyway…) and there´s no chance to set it right. Probably I will regret the “what if” forever but well… I will take it as a lesson because that´s all I can do… Nevertheless, I want to keep focusing to work on and live more dreams in 2016. It seriously made the year so worthy to me! Some of them will become really tough to realize but I´d be happy to share this new chapter with you!

“I wanna take this chance and do something I´ve never tried
I want to make this moment matter till the end of time”
~ Take this chance – Anastacia ~

Goals

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